Why Do Women Like Bad Boys?

February 4, 2023
Why Do Women Like Bad Boys?
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Women will always have an attraction for what some would term “bad boys” but there’s way more to the story than meets the eye. “Bad boy” needs a real definition. Is it a gang banger, cheater, abuser, or predator? No. Normal women like none of these types of men.

“Bad boy” is really a state of mind. And it’s something you need to accept if you want to attract more women. You see, women like many things. They like stable relationships and being treated well. They also enjoy sex, travel, good conversation, and men they can build a home and family with. But they don’t want to be bored in pursuit of all of that.

“So, women want all the good stable things in life but don’t want to be bored at the same time? Sounds like women are complicated and don’t actually know what they want.”

False. Women need some level of excitement while still being offered stability. What that means for you is this: To attract and keep women, you need to offer safety while still having “bad boy” tendencies. Let's break it all down.

Bad Boys Make Women Think They Have Options

Let’s say you want a car. What’s your mindset when walking into the dealership typically? You definitely want a deal but at the same time you don’t want a piece of junk. How will you feel if the salesman tells you “I’ve got something special for you. She’s a bit rusty but you’re going to love her!” and he shows you this:

beaten up car

Aside from the terrible aesthetics and questionable reliability of the car, why else are you going to hate it? It’s obvious no one else wants it. You won’t be able to proudly and comfortably drive around town with it. This hurts the appeal.

When no one wants something, it makes that item that much more unattractive. With Rolex and Tesla, there’s a certain level of desirability for such brands. Because there’s a demand, this adds to the appeal of these companies. Apply this to your dating life.

Women want to be chosen. She doesn’t want to be your last resort. Here’s a secret I’m going to let you in on. Women love it when they’re with a guy who can have options. They like knowing you’re in demand. This doesn’t mean they want to be with a man who’ll cheat on them. But they love knowing he can get other girls, but he’s decided to be with them instead (exclusively).

So how do you show you have options?

By flirting with the waitress?

Texting other women while out with her?

Coming over her house late at night making her think you were out with someone else?


This is all vile behavior and normal women with self-respect will not stand for any of that.

Instead, you want to convey you have options by your appearance, demeanor, and financial security. When you’re in good shape and have a good career going for you, that already tells a girl you can have anyone in 80% of the dating pool.

But there’s one more thing you can do to really have her think you can snatch any woman you want.

Men with options do not become obsessed after the first date. They avoid texting non-stop, having long conversations via messages, and asking to see you every second of the day.

Act like you’ve been here before. Men with options have composure. They don’t get overexcited - like it’s the first time a girl has shown interest in them. Instead, they continue to focus on their life, their hobbies, and make time for the girl when appropriate. They carry the vibe that if this doesn't work out, there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

All of this is game. If you want a free resource on how to learn non-sleazy game, then join my men’s dating newsletter.

Bad Boys Know How To Navigate In The Bedroom

Being absolutely clueless in bed is a problem. Experience helps to learn what works and doesn’t work. But not many guys have the luxury of getting laid enough to figure it out along the way. If you want to know how to work the bedroom, take note of how bad boys do it.

Here’s a list of things bad boys don’t do:

  1. Finishing in two minutes.
  2. Telling a woman how much you like and love her after sex.
  3. Laying in the fetal position crying after a love-making session.
  4. Being motionless and showing no enthusiasm when in action.

Here’s things a bad boy would do:

  1. Foreplay.
  2. Last as long as the girl he’s with.
  3. Spanking/Hair pulling (just confirm she’s down for that first).
  4. Dirty talking (make sure you gauge her reaction and can tell she’s into it).

Being good in bed isn’t difficult.

Be engaged and identify what is and isn’t turning her on. If you’re asking her to do a certain thing over and over that she’s really not into, this will end badly. Instead, focus on what makes her hot. Never be selfish in bed, otherwise she’ll eventually just want to stop having sex with you.

Keeping in mind knowing how to build sexual tension with a woman is crucial. What you do outside the bedroom definitely matters.

Bad Boys Never Show Wimpy Behavior

At no point should you ever tell a girl “I just feel like…you don’t give me enough attention.”


Never tell a girl “I just feel like…” when it comes to anything.

Either be direct or don’t even talk about your feelings. When you’re married, that’s a different story. But if you’ve seen this girl less than five times, play it cool.

Bad boys never ever sit around all day having long conversations drinking a pumpkin spice latte in their pajamas. You are not a 14-year-old girl.

Textationships don’t exist with these kinds of men. If they want to talk to you, they’ll invite you out. They have neither the time nor interest to text around all day. Nor do they bitch and moan about how hard life is. You won’t see them complaining about their boss or car troubles.

What will you see them talk about?

Their hobbies, interests, weekend plans, and casual topics.

Should you never open up to a girl?

Of course you should. But you need to establish a relationship first. She is still a stranger after you have a “great connection” on the first date. Tread carefully.

Another thing bad boys do:

They approach women.

If they see a cute girl and see an opportunity to talk to her, they go for it.

As long as you’re looking decent and you come correctly, women do not mind this. They want to be approached.

Obviously you want to have some common sense.

If she is on her phone panicking about a deadline she just missed, you don’t want to come up to her and say “Excuse me, did anyone ever tell you how cute you look when you’re flustered?”

She’s not in the right state of mind to be talking to anyone at that point. Have common sense.

How To Be a Bad Boy

Being a bad boy is simple. It comes down to three things:

  1. Conveying masculinity
  2. Having competence and street smarts
  3. Knowing what to say and when to say it.

Basically, you know how to be manly and read the room. None of this is complicated. Any guy can learn the most important traits of a bad boy and apply it to their life to attract more women.

Don’t forget: bad boys have a code. They live by a standard of behavior where zero weakness or beta tendencies are displayed.

Can anyone adapt the best traits of a bad boy? Definitely. And there’s two ways. Either by living your life and dealing with the trials and errors of human interaction…or getting a copy of my ebook program How To Make Her Want You where a lot of what I teach will definitely give you strong bad boy vibes that women love.

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